We all need to give

People who are seen as needy, labelled as weak, often dont get to give. Some research about people in a care home who shared the same diagnosis and health profile brings this into sharp focus.

The first group were given a pot plant by a carer who said 'dont worry we will take care of it'. The second group were given a pot plant and told by a carer that they would be responsible for the plants welfare.

So, the first group were passive (more of what they knew) and the second were active, tending their plant, keeping it fed and watered, enjoying its healthy presence. The second group lived for on average 18 months longer.

If you read this blog - you are probably interested on some level in the dynamics of difference, the ways in which we relate to each other and the need to reflect on what it takes to be together. I am aware that I have often over supported, assuming that my helpful ways are welcome. I am learning about the need to step back, to just be, assuming nothing and allowing space for reciprocity so that more mutual interdependent relationships can emerge.

There is great joy to be found in giving - it is fundamental to what makes us whole.

Andy